Got Tweens?
Can we talk about your growing and changing tween? This age is no longer a baby. Nor do they have experience to make good choices to keep themselves safe. That is why a 10 to 14 year old is called a "tween".
- I am going to rain on the tweens and teens parade and poop at their parties, here.
You and your child have survived the "terrible two's" and the "trying threes".
Your 6 year old has graduated from Kindergarten.
Just when you may think you have it made and no longer need safety locks on the toilet and what not, your child has become a tween.
You can save money by no longer having to buy diapers or pay for a babysitter.
Life can't get better. Am I right?
Well, (gulp) not exactly.
Your tween needs your loving supervision more than ever. They need structure with interesting things to do.
A bored tween who thinks that there is NOTHING to do, will invent something that is TROUBLE.
I know that not every parent will admit to this.
Let's play catch.
Parents may deceiving themselves because they had a talk that goes like, "Don't let me catch you going out with girls/ boys.Don't let me catch you hanging out with the hoods. Don't let me catch you..."
Oh, yeah, the kid figures he/she has permission to not get caught and it's all cool. (I don't think that way. But, I know that kids can and will twist things to their own advantage, especially when they have a friend who has no rules to abide by.)
Nobody ever told me about a lot of things when I was dreaming of having a sweet little baby.I wish someone had really told me all the facts of life.
I am going to be your BFF and just blurt it all out.
You don't have to thank me or anything.
I expect of few of you to get upset with what I write. That is alright if you think your child is the exception to the rule. I was the exception to the rule, but, I have been around kids for years.
Any time an adolescent thinks he/ she is bored and really doesn't want to do something you make them do, they may put up a very good show. Kids may be saying "Amen" or be the first to altar call, but...they may the ones crawling out the window at night and getting into trouble. (Or maybe not.)
Neither finger paint nor baking soda and vinegar volcanoes no longer hold a 12 year old's attention.
The world revolves around what the friends think, now. You aren't the center of their world anymore.
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Do you remember when you had written out the house RULES when your angel was five? Well, by the age of 9 or 10 those rules will have to be updated even if a certain someone longer feels they need rules.
They may learn to lie because they know you don't approve of certain behaviors, but you never explained "why you don't approve."
Isolating a child from "evil" and never allowing them to make dumb mistakes will not stop the curiosity. (I will be writing about more in the next blog.)
This is when I rain on your parade and poop at your party.
- Child proof your home to keep your teen/tween safe.
- Do you have liquor in your home? Lock it up. Set a good example. By the way, alcohol is a drug that is addictive. And, NO, that fruity punch stuff is still alcohol. So is Near Beer.
- Watch who is using the magic markers and glue. I am not talking about the five year old writing his name in permanent maker on all the walls or gluing the cat.
- Kids get curious and like to try new things. Other kids tell them about how fun it is to inhale household products. Those aren't real friends because they don't tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. They fail to say that inhaling household cleaners, aerosols, nail polish removers and solvents can kill or cause permanent brain injury.
- The computer and the internet are wonderful inventions.
- They can also cause great harm and death.
- Install blocks and set up rules about use of the internet.
- Keep the computer in a place that is visible to you at all times.
- Kids think they are savvy and sophisticated.
This still too long post is a snippet from a No Non-centsNanna.com blog. I am that Nanna!
Here is the link to the very long original post.
nanna.teoe.com/b2evolution/blog1.php/free-time-for-tweens-starts
Also repurpsoed from bubblews.comSubmitted by NoNon-centsNanna on June 13th, 2013 – http://www.bubblews.com/news/653020-got-tweens-nonon-centsnanna-rains-on-your-tweens-parade-and-poops-at-their-unsupervised-parties
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